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Welcome to Day 2 of our Jump Start January 2018 mini-challenge. Today’s activity is one of the many ways to retrain your brain to make you feel more positive and more empowered: it’s time to Complain (grumble) less and fix more<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n

There are two main types of complaining. One is assertive complaining that can help ourselves and others (stopping people or companies ripping us off, calling out bad service or bullying, getting politically active when we see dishonesty or injustice, and so on), and the other is, er, just grumbling away to ourselves.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s good to talk and get things off your chest, but if it\u2019s just moaning for the sake of it then this can become a bad habit. Grumbling in this way can often go around and around in a circular fashion, sometimes turning into a disempowering downward spiral, unlike other options that can be more helpful if you want to live a generally happier life. Today is only about moaning and grumbling.<\/p>\n

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More about what we’re trying to do today<\/h1>\n

Today\u2019s activity is to avoid having a moan for one whole day<\/em><\/strong>. Just try to notice when you are thinking or speaking in a non-productive way, and behave slightly differently if you can.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no need to suppress any negative feelings or deny them. The idea here is to try to deal with them in a different way, to find out whether it\u2019s helpful to you or not.<\/p>\n

Once you’ve spotted those thoughts, try to shift your focus to problem solving instead of simple complaining. Moaning is not the same as effective complaining, and listening to your inner voice when you feel a bit grumpy can actually be very helpful. You might like to keep a note of what\u2019s bugging you and making you want to complain.<\/p>\n

You might find it helpful to monitor:<\/p>\n